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FIVE WAYS HOW TO GET OVER A BREAKUP

Let us take a moment to acknowledge how breakups suck, that they are not fun, and how hard is it to get over them. Fun fact, I always tell others that it is easy to get over a breakup, but in reality, it is NOT. I have experienced breakup myself and these tips that I am about to disclose actually worked and helped me a lot. Any of these tips might be a no-brainer but you probably need a little push to make this works for you. I hope this will help you get over your breakup, or help you see it in a different perspective in a way that you did not happen to realize it might be for your own good. Before I forget, let me tell you that whatever breakup you’re going through right now, YOU WILL ALWAYS SURVIVE. It takes time, it will get better, and YES, YOU WILL SURVIVE. There’s no judgement here, either you are surviving a 3-month breakup or a 10-year breakup with whatever reason. So let’s go.

1. CRY IT OUT!

You have to cry it out. You are hurt and probably feel like crap with all of these thoughts of him/her being gone and that you are alone now. Basically, you are in pain, you feel horrible, broke, all those feels let it out because it is perfectly normal to cry. These thoughts of being together, memories being together that hurt you so bad, just feel the pain and don’t try to ignore it because chances are you’re just delaying the process. You never know when it will hit you and you can’t hold it in any longer. Let’s say, you heard a song you two used to listen to or sing or you saw his/her picture (honestly countless of possibilities) and you started crying (insert hashtag story of my life here). Haha. Then, you came to realize you are not fully over him yet because all you did was distracting yourself and never acknowledged or accepted the pain you’re feeling. You thought you are doing incredibly fine now because you do not think of him anymore. Self-distraction also is one of the ways but it does not come before the crying. Yes, it is indeed a process people. Don’t mind the others saying ‘oh you’re crying over a boy or girl it’s not worth it’ because you are not honey. You are crying because you are sad and because it hurts.

2. DISCONNECT WITH THEM

Okay, you two are no longer together clearly you do not have business with each other anymore. For my girls out there, DO NOT go bash your ex’s inbox ESPECIALLY if you’re going to beg for you guys to get back together. PLEASE STOP IT NOW. It will irritate him and might make him think you can’t live without him. Like what’s that??? Sure you can. It will be hard but you can and you will. Okay, if it is really hard, then try harder. You have to try harder. Don’t let your friends or common friends of you two talk to you about him also, like updating you what he’s done or how’s he doing. It’s not that you don’t care anymore (well maybe you should okay that’s way too harsh) it’s just it won’t help with the main goal of you getting over him. You don’t have to block them but if you do, okay that’s fine as well. You do whatever way you find best works for you. I am assuming you knew that if you block/unfriend him, there is no such thing as ‘unblocking’ if you went down that path again and you missed him or if you’re drunk. Because that to me personally my friend, is a form of immaturity. You have to be firm and believe in yourself that you will get through this. Another thing is, don’t creep on your ex’s IG or FB page because then you will feel sad again if you see that he’s moved on with another girl or boy. Haha. And trust me when I say it’ll be more embarrassing if you accidentally liked his picture. It’s not fun or okay in so many ways. It happened to me, please don’t do that.

3. TALK IT OUT

You have to share whatever struggle you’re feeling with your friends or significant others and let them comfort you. You’ll be surprised how much relief you will feel from letting it out of your chest and hearing others’ perspectives or experiences. If you are angry, let it out too provided you do it responsibly. What I mean is, you can’t just be yelling at someone everywhere whenever you feel like or be extremely mean to anyone because you feel like crap. Another thing I must say is, I don’t recommend posting it on social media. If your purpose is to spread a positive feedback of what you’re going through then you go ahead, but if it’s just pure hatred it is a huge NO. Everyone doesn’t need to see how you’re doing and they don’t deserve to be lashed out by you of what you’re going through either. Keep it to a minimum exposure. I know this might contradict to the whole ‘talk it out’ thing but writing down what you feel and all the things you wanted to say to your ex is just as great as talking about it. If you’re not a talker and don’t feel comfortable talking, this is the best way to have it. You absolutely do not need to contain all these distracting feelings inside you because it’s not healthy. Writing is the safest way as well, you can’t hurt anyone with your words because no one hears it unless you actually send it out to your ex. You can pour your heart out, your regrets or what-ifs, all that stuff left unsaid, and trust me it will make you feel better! Oppps almost forgot I did talk to myself, too. There might be some negative self-talk happened but it helped. Anyways, it’s just you and yourself now when will be the better time to build rapport with yourself than right now. Seriously, remind yourself you are strong and that no one can bring you down. Haha.

4. DISTRACT YOURSELF 

You are in full control of yourself. You are single now you can do whatever the heck you want, so as choosing how to feel, how to deal, and how to react with your breakup (once again not skipping the ‘accepting the pain and reality stage’). I remember when I caught myself thinking about my ex, I will then immediately divert my attention into watching funny videos. It’s lame I know but it helped me tremendously that’s why you have to try it too. There are numerous things you can do to distract yourself. You can go shopping, go out with your friends, basically making memories with yourself is what I am trying to hint here. It’s an absolute waste of time to keep thinking about that person over and over again who might not have thought of you since the day you broke up. And yes, it is noted that sometimes going through breakups is actually time and money consuming. Haha. I’m totally just kidding about the money consuming part. Distracting yourself isn’t evermore about your ex himself, like how to let him go, but to claim this opportunity to be able to better yourself and be selfish. If that makes sense. Doing the things you have been longing to do but got no chance because you were too occupied maintaining a relationship. Life doesn’t end here. Explore by yourself and for yourself.

5. DON’T BE FOOLED BY ”TO GET OVER SOMEONE IS TO GET UNDER SOMEONE ELSE”

I think this is dumb and immature. I don’t think this is even helpful and I believe that nothing good will come out of this. Not that I’m implying any impression that you two will get through this and eventually will get back together, it is just not acceptable. You don’t let your breakup takes control of your actions and suddenly become carefree going out hooking up with whoever. At least be respectful, let the breakup takes its course and stop yourself rushing into things. I don’t think it’s healthy to start-up a new relationship with unhealed broken heart. Because the last time I checked you just went through a heartbreak. I will be worried if after a week you’re already this ready, have it all figured out, and able to be in a meaningful relationship again. You’re just gonna end up thinking about your previous relationship and break up because that was the reason why you are in this present relationship. Not to mention the fact that it will be quite unfair to the other party who you dragged into your messy relationship shebangs. What I am saying is there’s no such thing as jumping from one relationship to another immediately right after coming out from a breakup. It is not real.

I still know everyone copes differently but these are just what worked in my experience. Some of you might relate and some might can’t. Whatever way makes you feel better, you do that. Of course, we don’t share the exact same experience and certainly what I think may not accord with what you think and what you believe in. But one thing is for sure, you will get through this, and as soon as you do, you’ll find all this hilarious. That is a FACT.

Thank you so much for reading, I hope this was helpful!

Peace and Love,

Jinky xx

 

 

 

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52 WEEK BLOGGING CHALLENGE

Hello everyone! Wow! it is been a while since the last time I have posted. I apologize for being MIA for the past couple of months. So, today I have decided to do the 52 Weeks of Blogging Challenge. This post is not counted as one of 52, this is just an introduction kind of. Basically, it’s a challenge where I have to post a blog every single week for 52 weeks. Okay, first thought, I was terrified because we are talking 52 weeks of non-stop blogging (although I have an entire week to actually prepare for it, not that it is happening every single day and has to stop after 52 weeks) and I know I am terrible at this. For sure I’m gonna be beating myself to keep this challenge productively flowing, but I think this will be fun. In all honesty, I want to do this to have myself something to look forward to because I am the queen of only having to rejoice if I did something productive. Haha. So, I believe I am off to a good start. Therefore, keep your eyes peeled and join me every Saturday at 4 pm for a brand new post! I am not mentioning the topics here now for a bit of surprise, but they will be interesting. Yayyy! Thank you so much for reading and sticking with me.

I hope you are having a lovely day and see you Saturday!

Love,

Jinky xx

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Posted in lifestyle

SKINCARE ROUTINE

I mess around with so many different products but these are my top picks. I have been keeping it simple, and the lesser the product the better. When it comes to skincare I mostly focusing on keeping my skin moisturized, protected from the sun, and all that age-rewind sort of things.

 

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SEPHORA CLEANSING WATER

 

Makeup Remover wise. I recently discover this from Sephora (obviously), when I was swatching products from them, the lady working there used this on my hands and I was impressed (so much that I have to purchase it) on how it clears your skin off of everything! It is a cleansing water but it works well in removing all your makeup. You just put on a cotton pad or two and rub it around your face. It’s amazing, highly recommend it.

 

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HADA LABO

 

Onto Moisturizer. I am using a moisturizer by Hada Labo. It is a Japanese skin care product that provides you with an intense hydration with its super smooth light texture, that is quickly absorbed by your skin without feeling it heavy or greasy at all. It is so good, it doesn’t cause me breakouts and you can see the difference between a well-moisturized skin and that’s not, the very next morning you wake up. I will link their site here so you can have a look if some of you are wondering. I got mine from a friend and she ordered them from Japan. The 140ml bottle goes a long way and I’m obsessed!

 

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DR.BELMEUR DAILY REPAIR ATO SALT CREAM

 

So, I have been experiencing itchiness in some areas of my face that are believed to be caused by dryness and probably because the season’s changing. This product has been a huge help in calming the itch and resolving the dryness. I use just a small amount and apply it to the affected areas.

 

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EUCERIN SUNSCREEN

 

SUNSCREEN. Yes, they are in capital letters to show how passionate I am about sunscreens. In here we get too much sun and I always and always put sunscreen, it is a huge thing for me. In fact, I use them night and day every day. It is not being extra, it is necessary to have it in your routine helping you avoid skin damages from UV lights, mentioning two of so many: wrinkles and dark spots. I love this one, it has SPF 50 in it and specifically resists and reduces the appearance of UV-Induced Aging.

 

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JEJU VOLCANIC LAVA PEEL OFF CLAY NOSE MASK

 

Nose Mask. This has been my best find for effectively clearing out my nose pores. I do it once every other week and I kid you not, it causes me tears everytime I peel off the mask but hey it is good and it is working, so everything’s fine. It gives me joy how it makes my nose bright, clear, and smooth.

 

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Face Mask. Often times, I switched things up from a peel-off mask to sheet mask depending on what my skin needs. But this one works so well for me that is why I’m sticking with it. I love this because it is not too intense but it does the job, declogging my pores from all the gunk that might have been accumulated from wearing makeup every day. I do this once a week and I absolutely love it, it leaves my skin smooth, fresh, and clean.

DISCLAIMER: I am asian and I tend to gravitate towards asian skincare products just because I have found that my skin reacts differently and there are products that do not work for me.

Alright, that is going to be it for today. Thank you so much for reading. Until next time!

Love,

Jinky

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PHOTO DIARY // MACAO 2017

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Wow it is insane how the time’s gone so quickly. This is a major throwback inspired by a blogger I follow. These are indeed, real moments, crazy amount of happiness, and a whole load of memories.

I remember laughing my heart out when my friend do this thing, she’s going to wistle at literally every single stranger in the street that she could possibly see and just smile or laugh at them everytime they turn around. LOL. I mean who does that? Oh well, she does, no one knows us and we’re in a foreign country so she couldn’t care less.

These pictures were taken during our trip to Hongkong last August and had a day exploring Macao. It was fun and nostalgia is actually kicking in rigth now. Anyways, I hope you guys are having a great weekend. I sure do. I have a couple of days off work and kind of contemplating either to sort-out my to do list or to just chill the days away with good movies and lots of sleeping sesh plus naps. We’ll see how it goes.

Thanks for stopping by!

Love,

Jinky xx

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HOW TO PUT DUSTY TOUCH ON PHOTOS

I would do anything for aesthetic. As you might notice instagram is completely consumed by never-ending innovations on how to better photos. Recently I have tried making my way into the dusty-effect-phenomenon of instagram photos because I think they’re cool and cute. Now, I will show you how do I do mine.

Step 1:

Download the Afterlight app (I believe it’s $0.99 and also available for Android) then start exploring and creating. Open the application and choose the photo you want to edit by allowing the app to have access to your photos. You should see the same thing as you see in the image below.

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Step 2:

After clicking the square thing, you will see 4 options that will look like the image below. Click the DUSTY one.

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Step 3:

This is the final step. After you clicked the DUSTY, you will have 13 different choices of dusty effects. My favourite is number 12 as shown below and I usually click-and-save up to 4 times depending on how I would prefer the opacity of the effects will look like on my photo.

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Check out the AFTER photo and other before and after images below.

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So, there you have it guys and I hope this is helpful. As always, edit yours according to your liking and personal style. Happy editing!

Love,

Jinky xx

 

 

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30 THINGS I LEARNED AT 3O

 

  1.  Talk less and listen more. The older I get the more I appreciate this. 
  2. Sleeping more than 8 hours a day is a waste of time.
  3. It’s okay to let people go. You’re not going to die.
  4. Cleanliness is life so as doughnuts.
  5. Save money to travel, and travelling alone is not that scary.
  6. The world really needs patient and kind people. I am trying and I believe I am making progress.
  7.  Building a career is what makes me a real woman.
  8. It is okay to say NO.
  9. Praying does magic. 
  10. You don’t need to have lots of friends, one is enough if you got the right one. Choose wisely.
  11. Needs and wants are two different things.
  12. Humour is essential. 
  13. Cooking is fun but hard at times.
  14. Being a realist makes things easier.
  15. English is a Language, not a measure of intelligence.
  16. Eating more vegetables and less meat is always a good idea. EVER.
  17. Swimming is actually fun. No sea creatures are going to bite off your toes or legs that could potentially kill you.
  18. Scoliosis is a big deal.
  19. Sunscreen is a MUST. 
  20. I would freaking do anything, and I mean ANYTHING for my family.
  21. Not everything learned from school is applicable in life but that does not mean you don’t have to study.
  22. The ‘You’re not who you think you are or who I think you are, You’re who you think I think you are’ makes sense.
  23. Failing is okay, sometimes it is the beginning of something great coming.
  24. Never be ashamed of your struggles, they shape you.
  25. Hairstyle tells a lot about you.
  26. Nursing is my Life and Purpose.
  27. I got my attitude from my mother and my creative side from my father.
  28. Living and working overseas make people think you’re rich. What about preference?
  29. Celebrate you and celebrate being alone. It’s perfectly fine.
  30. Doing something you’re nervous about brings so much satisfaction when they work out.

I hope you’re having a lovely weekend! 

Love,

Jinky xx

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CASUAL FRIDAY AT CORNICHE BEACH

As you know or might not know, the weekend in the UAE falls on Friday and Saturday. I am so grateful that I get to enjoy them now. That being said, I went to the beach for two consecutive weekends now. Welcomed the sand on my feet, floated in the water and sort of swam a bit (because your girl right here can’t swim, like the actual swimming thing that swimmers do? yes that), and soaked under the sun. Plus I need to know how to swim and hanging out at the beach is a perfect way to do so. Also, I made a promise to myself to go out and explore the city as much as possible, though, I only have the weekends, we will make it happen!

For a quick background: The beach extends along Corniche Road from near the Hilton Hotel to beyond Al Khaleej Al Arabi Street. The beach is equipped with multiple umbrellas to use and cost AED 25 (US $6.81). It’s divided into different gates (Gate 1, 2, 3, 4) and these are the areas for family and friends with AED 10 (US $2.7) entrance fee, aside from the General Public beach (that is open and free of charge).

Rest assured that the place has a massive parking space and some are free of charge as well.

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That is all for the update for now.

Keep your eyes peeled! Cheers!

Love,

Jinky xx