Posted in THOUGHTS

7 BAD HABITS TO BREAK IN 2019

I’m sharing 7 habits to break in 2019. These are bad habits that I myself sometimes consciously do and I thought I’d share these with you as food for thought and potentially as an inspiration for one another to set on a good start this new year. Let’s get into it.

1. Showing Up Late

Showing up late would have to be on top of the list. You have no idea how bad I am in showing up on time in every get together with friends, meeting a friend, work meetings, and appointments. Thank goodness, I have not missed any interviews yet. I will make it a mission to break this habit in 2019. This is probably so annoying on so many levels to other people because If I were the one waiting, I’ll get annoyed, too. Your friends will have to adjust to you because you’re late and that is not a good impression to have nor a good start for a new year.

2. Excessive Worrying

Worrying is feeling troubled or uncomfortable and being overly concerned about a situation or problem. I don’t like things being not perfect the way I wanted them. Thus, over-worrying is the norm for me. Sometimes I’ll realize it sometimes I won’t and it just keeps happening. I know life or every single day rather is full of uncertainties and if we spend our time worrying we will miss out on things that we should be focussing instead. Our brain is so powerful that what we think and what we obsess on will grow and develop. If you worry about the things that could go wrong, it might go wrong. Over-worrying will just attract more worry and you’ll be trapped in this entire same cycle. So, this year we have to stop worrying about things more than we should and redirect our way of thinking and focus on what we can do to address the things that keep us worried. Lastly, the effects are not healthy at all; less sleep, irritability, emotional exaustion, unrealistic fear, the feeling of everything is just not working and everyone is annoying. Haha.

3. Saying bad things to myself

I look at myself in the mirror and I can instantly point out the things I don’t like about my self physically (like how short I am and my eye bags) instead of honouring what I have and recognising the values I have personally that I should be proud of. Not to mention the comments I gave myself everytime I screwed up or failed. Ironically, I can support and motivate myself in doing what I want to do and I can blame myself as much without second-guessing if I have not performed well. If you’re someone like me, this has to stop. Everywhere you can see self-care and self-love are being raised for awareness because it’s obvious that sometimes we need to be reminded that we are amazing just the way we are. I believe that practising self-love is very important because of how we are within ourselves contributes immensely to how we present or express ourselves out into the universe. That being said, the idea of talking bad things to yourself as well as self-blame in every realm of life possible contradicts that notion. I am aware that sometimes this can appear lame but it’s actually true. You can’t be nice to anyone if you aren’t with yourself and how can you compliment others and can’t compliment yourself? It takes practice, I myself included should do so and today can be the first day of many.

4. Not Exercising

Trust me I get a burst of energy and motivation when it’s a good day and some days I just don’t. I have no idea why. This year I will try harder to stop me from making excuses not to work out. There are multiple benefits you can get even in just doing simple exercise and stretches. To name a few; back pain relief, helps with muscle spasm, weight loss, improves your mood, and make your heart stronger (no pun intended). No need for a gym membership or fancy work out gears and whatnot. Just do your daily stretch and exercise as much as you can and wherever you can.

5. Impulsive Buying

Don’t be fooled by sales and offers at the mall. I’ll be lying if I’ll say I wasn’t. But if your aim is to help them skyrocket their sales, then feel free. Haha. When I started sorting out the things I need from the things I owned, it hit me. I can’t believe the money, energy, and time I have wasted every time I saw that red tags with 70% or 50% off on it. I have started breaking this habit later of 2018 and planning to completely break it this year. Think about the time you need to clean if you own a lot of things, the time you spend to think what to wear if you have a lot of clothes. And this can’t be just me, have you noticed that even though you have literally tons of clothes, you somehow managed to think you have nothing to wear thus you need to buy new ones. If you wanna buy something, delay buying it. You might be surprised that the next day you no longer want the thing you wanted the other day. Lastly, the thing about sales or offers is that you’re not actually saving money but spending more money buying things more than you actually need.

6. Gossiping and Complaining

I’m so guilty of this. Haha. I get that we are not perfect so as the people around us and those days that are just the “unlucky days”. I complain less now than before, which is I think is progress. If you’re a person who complains a lot over silly things that shouldn’t be attended really, know that it’s bad for your health as well as to the people around you who are unlucky enough to hear you always complain. The more you complain the more you are attracting negative vibes and negative people into your life. If you just think about it, you have way too many reasons to be thankful for. Okay, this doesn’t mean we can’t have negative thoughts but we can try to just keep them to ourselves and not putting it out there for people to know and feel uncomfortable, too. Gossiping is a bad habit I want to break, too. Please don’t be so quick to judge me. I don’t gossip big time, it’s just that sometimes we can’t contain ourselves talking about other people’s lives. It would be nicer if we can just talk about the good in them and how they’ve succeeded in inspiring us by example.

7. Excessive use of phone

Lastly but by no means least, excessive use of phone. I myself might also be doing this way more than I should sometimes, but I’ll take credit in knowing when I should and when I should really not. When you’re with your friends or loved ones, put down your phone or excuse yourself if you have to answer an important call. The fact that they gave you their time makes them more than deserving of the time you spent scrolling your phone, too. Be present, engage in the conversation, and update each other. Believe me, It will make them happy, feel appreciated and respected, and you get to be “that friend” who isn’t always on his/her phone. The other reason aside from saving money, why I don’t use data on my phone every time I’m out is that it will give me no reason to use my phone. If I’m out with friends, okay I’ll snap a pic or two and then I want to have fun. If I’m alone, I want to think and unwind otherwise I will not go out if I only have to be on my phone.

That is all the habits I want to break this year. I wish everyone a very Happy and Prosperous New Year. Let’s have a fresh start and welcome the 364 days with hundreds of new chances not only for changing our habits but for literally everything. Let’s make 2019 better together! Thank you so much for stopping by. Cheers!

Love,

Jinky xx

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Posted in NURSING

FIVE EXERCISES FOR BACK PAIN

There are simple and doable exercises that can help ease back pain as much as Natural Ways like meditation and massages can do. The following exercises can also help with mobility, muscle stretching, and strengthening.

Cat-Camel

  • kneel on hand and knees
  • slowly arch your back up towards the ceiling while lowering your neck
  • hold when you feel stretch in mid and lower back
  • perform the reverse
  • extend your neck upwards while lowering your spine

Knee-to-Chest

  • lie on your back with your knees bent and feet resting on the floor
  • with your hands, pull one knee to your chest, then the other knee until you feel a gentle stretch in the lower back
  • hold both knees for 20 counts, and then put one leg down at a time

Bridging

  • lie on your back with knees bent feet on the floor
  • tighten your abdominal muscles to keep your back in a neutral position
  • use your buttock muscles to slowly rise off the surface without bending your lower back
  • relax your shoulders and neck as you hold
  • make sure to keep your breathing even

Piriformis

  • cross your leg over the other
  • pull the bottom leg toward you
  • repeat on opposite side

Bird Dog

  • starting position with hands and knees on the floor
  • tighten your stomach muscles
  • extend the right leg while lifting left arm
  • reverse position and repeat

Back pain can be caused by aging, disease, injury or stress. Exercises can help tremendously in preventing not only back pain but other health issues as well as restoring our overall well-being.

Thanks for stopping by and have a wonderful day or night!

Love,

Jinky xx


Posted in travel

SUMMER ADVENTURE WITH FRIENDS

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My desire for exploring the Seven Emirates of the United Arab Emirates made me do this.

Day 1. Solo Commute to Fujairah. I left Abu Dhabi via the public bus heading to Dubai at 12:00 noon and arrived at Al Ghubaiba Bus Station at 2:40 in the afternoon. Took the train to Union Metro Station to get myself on the bus to Fujairah. The trips were scheduled hourly, and I missed the 4:30 so went for 5:30. The travel time took almost 2 and a half hours, with the spectacle we passed by I surprisingly didn’t get bored the entire time. I made friends who were with me on that bus, talked about the place, and where to go to make the most out of our trip. Reached the bustling city of Fujairah around 8:15 in the evening and my friends picked me up to go to Khor Fakkan. Khor Fakkan is known for its stunning beaches and ambience. Located between Wadi and Fujairah but part of Emirates of Sharjah.

Day 2. Beach Time and Exploring. We woke up around 7:00 in the morning, had coffee and popped on the beach. Developed additional tan lines and unimaginably drank sea water one can ever consume. At 4:00 in the afternoon, decided to visit the Al Rufaysah Dam. Stayed for a while able to take pictures, and left hurriedly because of the uneasiness we felt from people staring at us because of how we dressed. Lesson learned, know the dress code of the place before barging in.

Day 3. Pool/Beach Time Again and Hitting the Road Home. Again woke up around 7:00 in the morning. Stayed at the pool real quick and came down to the beach one last time. Had to endure the massive waves and got multiple scratches from the sand when the wave dragged me. Nonetheless, the marks on my bum are the undesirable proof that I had fun. We checked out of the hotel at 12:00 in the afternoon and drove back to Al Ain. Made a quick stop to grab a bite and also in the middle of literally nowhere to capture some pictures for the gram. Arrived at Al Ain probably around 2:00 o’clock, got me a power snooze and left Al Ain at 9:00 in the evening.

I can surely say my holidays were well-spent with friends visiting new places. Here’s to more holidays and more adventures!

I hope you guys have had the best time over the Eid Holiday!

Love,

Jinky xx

Posted in travel

A DAY AT SAADIYAT BEACH ABU DHABI

Oh hello, again sun! Lately, I have been enjoying going on swimming despite the thought and the actual feeling of 107 degrees outside. Who am I? Haha. Just kidding! My eagerness to just go out after a long week is what makes me do it. My friends and I went to Saadiyat Beach and it’s so pretty! White sand, clear water and happy people hanging out having fun were just what I wanted.

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I now like swimming and would certainly love to learn more. Oh, my Neurologist’s advising me as well to go swimming to help me with my mild scoliosis. I regret why haven’t I learnt how to swim when I was younger and most of all when I had my best chance. It scares me tho when cramps will hit me big time whilst I am in the water, then that would be the end of me. That’s an issue. I used to be so scared to get tanned, too and the constant thought of skin cancer that the sun might cause is hunting me. However, now I am cherishing and rocking the tan lines! I spent 6 hours at the beach yesterday and it was so much fun. Again, it would have been perfect if it was less intense than 107 degrees!

I hope you are having a fantastic weekend and I wish you productive weekdays ahead!

Love,

Jinky xx

Posted in lifestyle

MY SUMMER SKINCARE ESSENTIALS

Hello, again! Summer is definitely a time of the year where taking an extra mile when it comes to skincare is acceptable. We tend to be in the sun longer than usual; thus, having products that deliver what we need most is a must.

Today’s post I’m going to share the products I use regularly in the summer and why I love them. I hope this will help you if you’re looking for new products to try and hopefully what works for me will do for you.

FACE WASH

I use this not only in the summer but all year round. I believe there is a scrub version but this one, in particular, is the product I re-purchase after I went to try out other products and didn’t work. It has a creamy texture and especially when you have it lather up, it just feels satisfying into the skin. If you’re like me who love their face wash floppy so they know that all the specks of dirt are coming off, this one might also be for you. After washing it off it makes my skin smooth and clean without that feeling of tightness that makes me so uncomfortable. Definitely my favourite out of every single face washes I have ever tried.

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TONER 

I have an oily skin and almost into the sensitive side thus using a toner is a big help. This one, in particular, is soothing and actually kind of calming my skin down especially this summer season. I get tiny red bumps around my forehead and chin but when I started using this toner they disappeared. Another thing is, we know washing alone does not really remove all the dirt. Therefore, using a toner on a cotton pad also removes the residues that I missed from washing. It feels refreshing and it claims to be moisturizing as well, which it really is. The consistency is watery with a very light scent to it.

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MOISTURIZER

I can’t even tell you how much I really love these moisturizers! These are the Essentials Urban Skin Detox Night Cream and Essentials Urban Skin Defence Day Cream Moisturiser SPF 20. You can already tell which is which. I have used different moisturizers before; high-end or drug store but nothing really made my skin the way it is now. The main ingredient of this product is green tea and that’s presumably why it’s not harsh and heavy for my skin. Perfect for summer because it’s light, fast absorbing, and provides you with the moisture that you need particularly in the summertime. This doesn’t break me out and it makes my skin extra glowy. Highly recommend this for my Asian girls out there who are looking for new products to try!

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SUNSCREEN

This is a no-brainer. We need to wear sunscreen people, especially during the summertime. I have been using this product for 3 months now and it’s been doing wonders for me. I love myself some anti-ageing factor from anything I get my hands into, hence I am sold by this.

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BODY MOISTURIZER

I used to be so diligent when it comes to moisturising my body. I remember I even do it night and day, then I became super bad at it. At nighttime, I hardly apply lotion and during the day if I’m not running late then I can go through applying such. The reason is that sometimes I get lazy and I don’t like the sticky feeling that it gives me. I have been trying to be better at it though. I am using the Jergens Daily Moisture for day to day moisturizer and the Hawaiian Silk Hydration with SPF 50 when I am actually in the sun. To go extra, I use the Shimmer Effect for a golden glow finish mainly when I’m out and about having fun under the summer sun. Each product absorbs quickly, it feels light in my skin, doesn’t make me feel greasy, and it smells like an absolute summer!

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Okay, that is it for now, thank you so much for reading. Until next Saturday!

Love,

Jinky xx

Posted in travel

A PHOTO DIARY FROM OUR RAS AL KHAIMAH ESCAPADE

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After almost 4 hours of long drive, finally arrived. Went straight to lunch at Bin Majid Resort. Photo Credit – Neiljuan Bie –

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The only pic I took but I’m telling you foods were amazing!

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This may look nothing and unchallenging to you, but trust me my friend this thing got me. I was so bummed because it looks cool and fun but I was consumed by discomfort rather than having ‘fun’. The thought of trying it twice horrified me; nonetheless, others were loving it so I still highly recommend giving it a go.

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Next up we went kayaking. It was my first time and I absolutely loved it!

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Okay I don’t look like I’m struggling with the actual work of paddling here so this photo’s cool for posting.

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The post 2-hour-100-degress-sun-exposure sipping orange vodka. Yayy for one of the perks of being an adult! Photo credit – Neiljuan Bie –

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Brought our own party thanks to this bunch of talented amazing beautiful humans! Sang tons of songs, had calm chitchats that gradually progressed into louder talks and laughter, then the rest was history. Photo Credit – Neiljuan Bie –

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Yet again, slathered oursleves with sunscreens and enjoyed the 10am morning sun for more or less than 2 hours. Okay certainly more. Buttttttt I enjoyed every bit of it plus I’ve got myself some cheeky tan lines now that I think are cool to brag going ‘honey I endured the sun’. Haha. If you know UAE’s temperature, you know. Photo credit – Neiljuan Bie –

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Here’s a photo of me playing it cool and blending in. Photo credit – Vera Rosales –

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One of the snaps before heading home. That concludes my photo diary. I hope you enjoyed reading as much as I enjoyed reminiscing about it. Photo credit – Neiljuan Bie –

This trip was planned by my friend/officemate’s close friends to suprise her for her birthday. It was by far my most memorable RAK experience! Well, compared to none. Haha. So, I’m definitely coming back. Thank you Acacia Hotel for the outstanding service, the amazing food, your coolest bartenders, and for the overall experience! And last but by no means least, to my friends and new found friends for tagging me along. Thank you!!!

That is it for today, until next time!

Love,

Jinky xx

 

 

 

Posted in THOUGHTS

FIVE WAYS HOW TO GET OVER A BREAKUP

Let us take a moment to acknowledge how breakups suck, that they are not fun, and how hard is it to get over them. Fun fact, I always tell others that it is easy to get over a breakup, but in reality, it is NOT. I have experienced breakup myself and these tips that I am about to disclose actually worked and helped me a lot. Any of these tips might be a no-brainer but you probably need a little push to make this works for you. I hope this will help you get over your breakup, or help you see it in a different perspective in a way that you did not happen to realize it might be for your own good. Before I forget, let me tell you that whatever breakup you’re going through right now, YOU WILL ALWAYS SURVIVE. It takes time, it will get better, and YES, YOU WILL SURVIVE. There’s no judgement here, either you are surviving a 3-month breakup or a 10-year breakup with whatever reason. So let’s go.

1. CRY IT OUT!

You have to cry it out. You are hurt and probably feel like crap with all of these thoughts of him/her being gone and that you are alone now. Basically, you are in pain, you feel horrible, broke, all those feels let it out because it is perfectly normal to cry. These thoughts of being together, memories being together that hurt you so bad, just feel the pain and don’t try to ignore it because chances are you’re just delaying the process. You never know when it will hit you and you can’t hold it in any longer. Let’s say, you heard a song you two used to listen to or sing or you saw his/her picture (honestly countless of possibilities) and you started crying (insert hashtag story of my life here). Haha. Then, you came to realize you are not fully over him yet because all you did was distracting yourself and never acknowledged or accepted the pain you’re feeling. You thought you are doing incredibly fine now because you do not think of him anymore. Self-distraction also is one of the ways but it does not come before the crying. Yes, it is indeed a process people. Don’t mind the others saying ‘oh you’re crying over a boy or girl it’s not worth it’ because you are not honey. You are crying because you are sad and because it hurts.

2. DISCONNECT WITH THEM

Okay, you two are no longer together clearly you do not have business with each other anymore. For my girls out there, DO NOT go bash your ex’s inbox ESPECIALLY if you’re going to beg for you guys to get back together. PLEASE STOP IT NOW. It will irritate him and might make him think you can’t live without him. Like what’s that??? Sure you can. It will be hard but you can and you will. Okay, if it is really hard, then try harder. You have to try harder. Don’t let your friends or common friends of you two talk to you about him also, like updating you what he’s done or how’s he doing. It’s not that you don’t care anymore (well maybe you should okay that’s way too harsh) it’s just it won’t help with the main goal of you getting over him. You don’t have to block them but if you do, okay that’s fine as well. You do whatever way you find best works for you. I am assuming you knew that if you block/unfriend him, there is no such thing as ‘unblocking’ if you went down that path again and you missed him or if you’re drunk. Because that to me personally my friend, is a form of immaturity. You have to be firm and believe in yourself that you will get through this. Another thing is, don’t creep on your ex’s IG or FB page because then you will feel sad again if you see that he’s moved on with another girl or boy. Haha. And trust me when I say it’ll be more embarrassing if you accidentally liked his picture. It’s not fun or okay in so many ways. It happened to me, please don’t do that.

3. TALK IT OUT

You have to share whatever struggle you’re feeling with your friends or significant others and let them comfort you. You’ll be surprised how much relief you will feel from letting it out of your chest and hearing others’ perspectives or experiences. If you are angry, let it out too provided you do it responsibly. What I mean is, you can’t just be yelling at someone everywhere whenever you feel like or be extremely mean to anyone because you feel like crap. Another thing I must say is, I don’t recommend posting it on social media. If your purpose is to spread a positive feedback of what you’re going through then you go ahead, but if it’s just pure hatred it is a huge NO. Everyone doesn’t need to see how you’re doing and they don’t deserve to be lashed out by you of what you’re going through either. Keep it to a minimum exposure. I know this might contradict to the whole ‘talk it out’ thing but writing down what you feel and all the things you wanted to say to your ex is just as great as talking about it. If you’re not a talker and don’t feel comfortable talking, this is the best way to have it. You absolutely do not need to contain all these distracting feelings inside you because it’s not healthy. Writing is the safest way as well, you can’t hurt anyone with your words because no one hears it unless you actually send it out to your ex. You can pour your heart out, your regrets or what-ifs, all that stuff left unsaid, and trust me it will make you feel better! Oppps almost forgot I did talk to myself, too. There might be some negative self-talk happened but it helped. Anyways, it’s just you and yourself now when will be the better time to build rapport with yourself than right now. Seriously, remind yourself you are strong and that no one can bring you down. Haha.

4. DISTRACT YOURSELF 

You are in full control of yourself. You are single now you can do whatever the heck you want, so as choosing how to feel, how to deal, and how to react with your breakup (once again not skipping the ‘accepting the pain and reality stage’). I remember when I caught myself thinking about my ex, I will then immediately divert my attention into watching funny videos. It’s lame I know but it helped me tremendously that’s why you have to try it too. There are numerous things you can do to distract yourself. You can go shopping, go out with your friends, basically making memories with yourself is what I am trying to hint here. It’s an absolute waste of time to keep thinking about that person over and over again who might not have thought of you since the day you broke up. And yes, it is noted that sometimes going through breakups is actually time and money consuming. Haha. I’m totally just kidding about the money consuming part. Distracting yourself isn’t evermore about your ex himself, like how to let him go, but to claim this opportunity to be able to better yourself and be selfish. If that makes sense. Doing the things you have been longing to do but got no chance because you were too occupied maintaining a relationship. Life doesn’t end here. Explore by yourself and for yourself.

5. DON’T BE FOOLED BY ”TO GET OVER SOMEONE IS TO GET UNDER SOMEONE ELSE”

I think this is dumb and immature. I don’t think this is even helpful and I believe that nothing good will come out of this. Not that I’m implying any impression that you two will get through this and eventually will get back together, it is just not acceptable. You don’t let your breakup takes control of your actions and suddenly become carefree going out hooking up with whoever. At least be respectful, let the breakup takes its course and stop yourself rushing into things. I don’t think it’s healthy to start-up a new relationship with unhealed broken heart. Because the last time I checked you just went through a heartbreak. I will be worried if after a week you’re already this ready, have it all figured out, and able to be in a meaningful relationship again. You’re just gonna end up thinking about your previous relationship and break up because that was the reason why you are in this present relationship. Not to mention the fact that it will be quite unfair to the other party who you dragged into your messy relationship shebangs. What I am saying is there’s no such thing as jumping from one relationship to another immediately right after coming out from a breakup. It is not real.

I still know everyone copes differently but these are just what worked in my experience. Some of you might relate and some might can’t. Whatever way makes you feel better, you do that. Of course, we don’t share the exact same experience and certainly what I think may not accord with what you think and what you believe in. But one thing is for sure, you will get through this, and as soon as you do, you’ll find all this hilarious. That is a FACT.

Thank you so much for reading, I hope this was helpful!

Peace and Love,

Jinky xx